Getting Over Our Fear Of Failure.


When I was little, I was brave.

I would be willing to climb onto any horse,

Jump anything they put in front of me.

Sure there were things I was afraid of, but a big thing was, there wasn’t a whole lot I didn’t believe I couldn’t do.

You see,

When we are kids,

We think we are able to do anything, until experience tells us other wise.

“What do you mean I can’t jump off the garage with an umbrella and fly? Watch!”

We rarely doubted ourselves and believed that we were truly able to do whatever we put our minds too.

And the past couple weeks I have realized how much that has changed.

All the fears that have slowly crept in.

The doubts I have about myself and what I am capable of.

The bravery has slowly drifted away as I’m tired of eating dirt and would rather not hit the ground.

It boils down to the fact that we don’t think we can,

That we don’t have enough confidence in ourselves to trust that even in things go wrong, we can deal with it.

We miss out on adventure, memories and growing because we are afraid of getting it wrong.

We would rather not look bad, then try something and fail.

But failure isn’t a big deal, it isn’t game over, it is lessons learned, trail and error, hitting the ground and getting back up saying next time I will do something different until I can get it sorta right.

How do you think all those who are great at something, got there?

They had courage, passion and were brave enough to move past their fears.

They were willing to step into the unknown and believe that they could.

We all have potential and I believe that by the grace of God, He is able to use us for things far greater than what we think we are capable of doing – but we need to have faith to trust in Him when times get rough.

When did we lose confidence in ourselves? But mostly, in God?

When did we become so afraid of failure and not being good enough that we’ve stopped even trying?

When we begin to fear failure we lose our ability to dream, to risk, to run after the things we are passionate about.

We are all born with potential, potential to do something great and beautiful – and each of us will look different doing it.

What I am good at, I will do a whole lot different than you will, even if we are good at the same thing. But that is what makes each of us so beautiful, is we bring something different to the party.

That is why comparing ourselves will only drain us, tired us and make us believe the lies that we aren’t good enough because we look at someone else and how they have done something to succeed and think we could never do that – but that’s the thing, even people who are good at something have had mistakes, have went through hard times, have failed and tried again.

Rather than comparing we should be encouraging one another by passing along what we’ve learned with humility and grace. Encouraging one another to run this race well and to not lose sight of all we are capable of because we are too consumed with not getting it right the first time or letting ourselves down, failing God or never making it to our goal.

Instead we should believe that whatever we put our minds too, we can try it, having confidence that as God leads us, we can give it a shot. To no longer limit ourselves, but mostly God to what He is capable of doing with our little lives. Because we have come to cut ourselves short of doing beautiful things for His Kingdom, out of our own fears and insecurities.

I am preaching to the choir here,

But you are capable – start to live in child likeness again, being bold, being brace and having the courage to go out there and learn.

To fail and be okay with that because you will get back up off the ground with your umbrella and think of a different way to make it work or trying something else.

There is nothing wrong with failure, go from it with more knowledge, wisdom and a heart to try.

Seek others to teach us, being humbled enough to realize we don’t have it all together, we can’t do it all ourselves and those who have tried the same things as us can give us some wisdom.

May you have enough heart to try – to not be so afraid of failure or never making it, or making a fool out of yourself to stop yourself short from living a full life.

May we go back to childlike faith – believing that we are capable and do it, trusting that our gracious Lord who has lead us and loves us, is with us.

I have realized that the more I fear failure, or I begin to limit myself because I look at all my failures and flaws rather than all the Lord has given me, I stop living a full life.

I stop seeking adventure, trying new things, being brave because I am full of fear rather than full of faith.

I want to live a full life.

I want to be brave.

I want to be like the little girl I once was,

Full of fire and passion to do whatever I put my mind too and trusting that as I look to our Father through it all, He will lead my footsteps, He will use that passion for His Kingdom.

Something I heard a while ago is ‘God can’t steer a ship that isn’t moving.’

I want to be someone full of life for Him, full of love, willing to wear my heart on my sleeve and put it all out there, to be confident in the fact that I am who I am and can do the best I can, no longer cutting myself short in fear of what others may think, especially if I don’t get it right.

We can learn from our mistakes,

We can get back up, dust ourselves off and give it another shot.

Failure is not the end,

And success doesn’t come usually the first go.

Be prepared to try and have courage to deal with the failures.

Don’t lose faith in yourself, don’t lose sight of the beauty you hold and all the potential you are full of.

Most of all, don’t lose faith in Him who created you and calls you to come follow Him – learning to trust that He holds you, He cares for you and He has told us to ‘Take Heart.’ To ‘Have courage and do not be afraid.’

You are able – and you can get out there and give it a shot and try.

Believe in yourself, you are capable of far more than you think.

Our God is a pretty great and awesome God.

Trust in Him and what He can do with our lives.

One of the saddest things would be to not have lived our lives at all – to miss out on adventure, on doing what we are passionate about because we were too afraid to step out onto the water.

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”
Joshua 1:9


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